What is Domestic Violence?

• Domestic violence affects one out of every four women throughout their lifetime. It is a form of abuse, which results in the mistreatment of one person by another. It is a pattern of control used to physically harm, to induce fear, to prevent a person from doing what he or she wishes or to force them to behave against their will.

• It occurs in many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, social and economic abuse. It can involve a spouse, ex-spouse, partner, household member, family member, date or friend.

• Domestic violence crosses all races, sexual orientations, religions, socio-economic groups and geography. It is not a medical or psychological condition; it is a crime, no matter what kind of relationship you have. Domestic violence does not tend to stop on its own. It generally gets worse over time, but there is help for both the abuser and the victim.

Have You Ever Been:

• Pushed, shoved, slapped, kicked, pinned down, kept from leaving a location, or threatened with a weapon?

• Forced to have sex or perform sexual acts which were uncomfortable to you, talked about as a sex object by your partner, denied affection, or accused of being unfaithful without reason?

• Taunted by your partner in the name of fun, ignored or had your feelings ignored, insulted repeatedly, threatened with violence to you, family members or pets, labeled as stupid, crazy or ugly?

• Insulted in public, followed from place to place, isolated from friends and family?

• Refused money for food, prescriptions or household needs, locked out of your home, refused transportation, or have been the target of destroyed personal property by a loved one?

These are examples of abusive behavior. If you or someone you love is experiencing abuse, YOU ARE NOT ALONE and we are here to help you!

We Can Help You

• Domestic violence counseling by hospital social workers
  
• Assistance in safety planning
  
• Information and assistance in contacting community programs for counseling, shelter, and legal help
  
• Trained hospital personnel to provide support and medical treatment for abuse
  
• Educational programs for community groups on domestic violence

You Can Help

If you think you know someone who is being abused, get involved. Contrary to popular belief, domestic violence is NOT a private issue, it affects everyone! Victims of abuse are often isolated and do not know help is available, and are often so stuck in the relationship that they are not able to get help on their own.

TIPS:

• Talk to the person directly about your concerns
  
• Encourage him or her to seek help
  
• Give emotional support, focusing on the person’s strengths
  
• Let the person know your concerns for his or her safety, and help develop a safety plan
  
• Let him or her know that domestic violence is a crime and there is legal protection

Related Articles:

• Domestic Violence Tips For Health Care Professionals

Contact a Hospital Social Worker at:

• Bryn Mawr Hospital: 610-526-3781
• Paoli Hospital: 610-648-1206
• Lankenau Hospital: 610-645-2171